What in the world...

Exactly what this post is all about, 'nuff said, ish.

Another week had passed, and I received seven questions, which are by themselves are kinda… peculiar. See it for yourself here;

1. What is the definition of love?

2. Have one been romantically fallen in love and if does so, what did it felt?

3. Why is it often difficult to confess one's  feeling to a crush?

4. Why are some people are yet to jump into a relationship?

5. Why is it often difficult to look for partners?

6. When's the right time to start a pre-marital committed relationship?

7. Related to point 6, does one need to have a proper job and home before taking the shot?

I was hesitant initially to seek answers from the others, but then I told my self “bring it on!”, so here goes! 

First thing’s first, how the interviewees define love varies, but it all go to the line of being attracted to someone or something. Four interviewees gave further details, in which three elaborated further that in romantic sense also relates on how someone will feel that he is willing to devote his support and care of her, also hoping for the best in everything, in turn of himself being comfortable around the crush in question, it should be mutual. It is interesting to note that was also an interviewee who at times feel like love could be irrational, in a sense people might act without thinking two or three steps ahead beforehand.

Second one, well everyone did, it’s just natural. The interview result indicated that in general the lads often unable to describe how they felt during that time. Then again, they managed to describe the feeling as a mixture of tension and excitement. One of the interviewee elaborated that in romantic sense, he will start to take a sight of his special someone (will be abbreviated as SO from now on) from time to another as and up to eleven plus wanting to be around her when the crush in question is away and off-sight. Another one elaborated that he wanted to prove his worth to his crush via devoting his efforts for her, in a sense that the ultimate purpose is to keep her comfy and provide her necessities all the time.

Third, yeah, it is often difficult because mainly due to the subconscious of one fearing that he would be rejected on the spot, then there is this awkwarness and anxiousness emerging whenever the chance is ahead. One of the interviewee stated that at times he felt that he was yet enough for a long-term commitment and that it is not worth risking just to tell a crush how he felt. Another elaborated that it is difficult because if he is to take the shot, it has to be flawless without mistakes and also if the crush happened to be a close friend of his, he concerned that a wrong move might strain their friendship from then on, something he described as “scary” and I agree with him, he can not be blamed for stating that! Another one had similar elaboration but his words had been covered just previously, ish.

Going for the fourth, basically everyone agreed that it is either there are no one they felt to be well-matched yet as well as considering that a full-term relationship requires great commitment and sense of responsibility to fullfil whatever needed. It is mostly the matter of wanting to improve their own selves before leaping and taking the shot for a such relationship. 

Now, the fifth, various answers, from simply having no experiences and unable to convince the crush to just do it, to ones waiting for a better place and moment. First notable one is the interviewee to begin with do not go with the girls often and at the moment feeling difficult of getting personal. Another one also had the same feeling of being unable to maintain casual, often un-serious conversations that eventually will get personal. Another two stated that it was difficult because they had experienced going into girls but in the end disappointed because the girls were not like how they thought were like. One of the two just aforementioned furthermore added that his crush in question simply viewed him nothing more than a tool that will help her advance before moving on. Interestingly, a rather distinct opinion emerged in a sense that the difficulty of finding a partner is due to mutual agreement between both parties may only existing after the two had spent a lot of time and knowing each other well, something not that easy to pull off today, and also due to the decline of “political marriages” in which the partner of someone was determined by the parents, ish. 

Sixth and the Seventh or last one, here we go, everyone stated and agreed to the notion that starting a relationship is ideally after finishing the Graduate education and importantly, when both parties have prepared for a long-term commitment with each other. One even added the approximate age of around 23 or 24. The main reasons were to ensure that the relationship will go smoothly with no party burdening the other and vice versa. Then comes the last question of wether or not a bloke will need to possess proper job or even a place to live. Well, some stated that it was not necessary and that the partner’s relationships will start slow but going steadily. Another also stated that it was not imperative as long as each one are responsible, but would be much helpful if that happened. The others felt that having a job and/or a home is critical because in human society it is the man who is seen as the protector and main provider of the family, and thus having a secure job and a well-equipped home is imperative.

In order to summarise everything above, I would now say about the later questions that pledging one’s self for a relationship is often hindered by the facts finding a match might be difficult and complicated as well as needing themselves to be a better-prepared man before taking the shot. In the end, a long-term, committed relationship requires great sense of responsibility and quite often enhancing conditions such at being able to responsible and committed to maintain the relationship, and even better if a man is already able to provide resources and a place to live safely, it would much, much better. With that, I will be back another time.

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